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Olivia Bennett, 22

Olivia skipped tutorials to avoid speaking. A 6-week plan of small social experiments, volunteering on Saturdays and metta practice.

University studentSydney, AustraliaIssue: Social anxiety

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Where Olivia started

Olivia rehearsed every sentence, sat at the back, and skipped tutorials where she might be asked to speak. She spent evenings scrolling, comparing herself with everyone online.

Goal

Speak once in every tutorial, and do one social thing a week she enjoys.

The science behind the plan

Every step comes from these methods, each backed by published research.

Volunteering

A beach clean-up crew every Saturday: a group with a shared job, so talking comes easily.

Source: Jenkinson et al. (2013), Volunteering and wellbeing: systematic review, BMC Public Health

Less scrolling

Social media capped at 30 minutes a day, and no scrolling before social events.

Source: Hunt et al. (2018), Limiting social media to 30 minutes a day lowered loneliness and low mood, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology

A typical day

  • Experiment: ask one question in your tutorialScience · 5 min
  • Write what you feared, and what really happenedScience · 5 min
  • Phone in your bag for the first 10 minutes of classScience · 10 min
  • Loving-kindness for yourself and the people you’ll meetFaith · 10 min
Buddhism

Optional faith track

Olivia chose to add these. They sit next to the science steps, never instead of them. Sources are pending scholar review.

Loving-kindness (metta) meditation

Source: Karaniya Metta Sutta, Sutta Nipata 1.8

Why it fits: Turns attention outward and softens the inner critic, like the science steps.

Mindful walking to class

Source: Satipatthana Sutta, Majjhima Nikaya 10

Why it fits: Calm attention to the present instead of rehearsing.

These practices are data-based suggestions drawn from cited sutras. They are not instruction from a monk or Dharma teacher. Please consult a qualified teacher for personal guidance.

Olivia’s calendar

Week 1Day 1: DoneDay 2: DoneDay 3: DoneDay 4: DoneDay 5: Partly doneDay 6: DoneDay 7: Done
Week 2Day 8: DoneDay 9: DoneDay 10: DoneDay 11: SkippedDay 12: SkippedDay 13: DoneDay 14: Done
Week 3Day 15: DoneDay 16: Partly doneDay 17: DoneDay 18: DoneDay 19: DoneDay 20: DoneDay 21: Done
Week 4Day 22: Partly doneDay 23: DoneDay 24: DoneDay 25: DoneDay 26: SkippedDay 27: DoneDay 28: Done
Week 5Day 29: DoneDay 30: DoneDay 31: DoneDay 32: DoneDay 33: Partly doneDay 34: DoneDay 35: Done
Week 6Day 36: DoneDay 37: DoneDay 38: DoneDay 39: DoneDay 40: DoneDay 41: DoneDay 42: Done
  • Done
  • Partly done
  • Skipped

35 days done, 4 partly done, 3 skipped. Missed days never reset progress.

Week by week

  1. Weeks 1–2Spotting fears and safety behaviours, and building a ladder from "say hi to the barista" up to "give a presentation".
  2. Weeks 3–4One experiment most days. Nobody noticed her blushing. She joined the beach clean-up crew.
  3. Weeks 5–6Speaking in every tutorial. Scrolling down from 3 hours to under 40 minutes a day.

Score, week by week

SPIN (social anxiety)

46Start12345226
46 → 22 (out of 68)

Lower is better. Her score moved from the high range to the mild range.

What helped most

  • Writing down what really happened
  • The Saturday clean-up crew
  • Phone in the bag
“Every time I tested a fear, it turned out smaller than I thought.”

Where Olivia is now

In week 6 Olivia gave a 5-minute presentation to her class. Afterwards, two people from the clean-up crew asked her to lunch.

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